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I love you Curadh. I love you Baehr. This is episode 77 of the Baehr and Curadh podcast. We're going to discuss
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Coercive situations. Do you have preferred sexual roles? Yes. Okay. What are they? I prefer top mostly
Yeah, I'm safer for a bottom mostly. Um, um, guess it's pretty really don't they expand upon that I guess really
Do we? Does it depend on the person you're with? Not really. No, I prefer bottom to be honest prefer less work
No, no, I think it's there's more work involved sometimes. It's not the easiest thing to do especially depending upon the partner
Do you know what I mean? Okay, you're you, not packing a little 22 down there
I mean it takes a little bit to get you worked up and yeah, it's uh, yeah
If the people understand what I'm getting at, what are your limits in the bedroom?
Mm-hmm. That's you can ask somebody what do they like in the bedroom and they'll go oh, I don't know
But you ask somebody what they don't like and boy they can just name off a numbered list. Yeah, yeah
I don't like a cat. No
Rimming don't like use those smelly things don't like pits. Yeah
Along the same lines with you. Sorry. I was shaking my head up and down before and that doesn't really translate into
Podcasting. Yeah, anything that does with smells. Yeah, Scott. No way
just no, it just gives me the chills thinking about that and
Some guys like to suck on toes and I don't do that easier
No, don't know where those toes have been and I'm missing five of them. So, you're already out half course right there
Well, feet are disgusting in general. I mean, that's why people call them hoes. I mean yeah
You like have you have I were giving you a flip of size? No, I don't think that's ever gonna happen either
You don't even give me a back rub. You say your So, hand hurts. No, well, I've given you backwards in the past
Just you know only for a couple of minutes. Well, cuz you want like an hour and a half back massage
Like they get it's a mall think of some Vietnamese. I'll pay you a $20 kit. Yeah, I bet
My tip is $20. Yeah, all right
Have your head sex with someone when you can ever want to a lot of times. No, a lot of times
There have been cases
Plenty have of times when I wasn't interested to start but by the end I was
I guess I think yeah, I guess so like you said not really have interesting
And then by the end. Yeah, but it's been a while you have ever had a case where you didn't weren't interested at the start and the end
It's been a long time since that's happened. Yeah, I went up to say to them. How about you?
Yeah, when I was raped. Yeah, that'll do a thing
I don't like talking about that too much. No, but yeah, I've gone and well, you also got to think that I
Pretend it to be straight for a long time. So, you had sex with women and you didn't want to
The whole time. Yeah. No, I mean at first it was like the other thing to do
So, I thought it was normal. You know, and do it, but then started realizing that that was in my cup of tea
Then like try to do everything besides the sex bar, and that was not very funny either
Talk about smells. Yeah
That someone pressured you to have sex with him. Yeah, it's just today, isn't it? What just today?
Just today am I being printed? It happened just today. Mm-hmm
Yeah, how about you? Oh, yeah, I've been pressured sure. Yeah, I can't think of a specific example that I'm I mean
I can remember plenty of times. Mm-hmm. Yeah. No, yeah, I've been I mean what did you decide to do?
Sometimes I would give in sometimes I wouldn't most of the time I wouldn't
Yeah, it really kind of depends on how creepy they are about it
Oh, you make me laugh
Sorry, that's just struck me as funny. Um, yeah, I mean I've been pressured, but I and it's yeah
No means no, I think that goes to everybody
So, you don't want to do it and don't do it. Would you agree? Yeah, the next question says what is he successful?
Well, how about this morning? Mm-hmm. How about this morning was he successful? No, no, you didn't give in. No, are you going to? Yes?
We have to. It was marked on the calendar. Yes. What was that old now?
Marked on calendars. Okay. You're having sex with someone and you did think sexually that you did not like doing. What was going on?
Well, the one that stands out the most is when I was raped. Yeah
that's just
horribly
isolating feeling
helplessness and
What's the word, um, control or lack of control? Yeah. Other fighting. Yeah. Are you mad?
No, I was scared and mad at the words
maybe not much
I'm
Mainly just kind of want to forget about it. Yeah, I can't imagine it's not like you could go to the police for that not in those days
I mean they would blame you just as much as the person doing it. Wow
Did you talk to them and all after that?
Not much. I think he saw that things had gone in a bad direction and he left soon after that. Yeah
He left something like what was in what he said? He's probably So, yeah, I'm good
When he said I said this before it's a good thing that he's not around so cuz I'd probably came in a crime. He was
Although I sort of have a daily reminder. I have a broken finger
That we're once in a while. I look down and see it and it reminds me of that that relationship
No, doesn't make you angry still. No, you can't live with anger your whole life. That's fair
No, you just can't
It would just eat away to till there's nothing left. Yeah, how about you? You had sex with someone and you did things you didn't want to do
No, no, I can't recall anything like that
Trying to think yeah, no, it's just starting getting weird or
Just kind of things that I didn't like I put a kibosh to it. You know, it's kibosh amazing when something turns you off
How quickly you're dicking go from willing to knock down a wall to a wet noodle?
Yeah, it just happens
And I mean it doesn't happen very much, but I mean it that's
How about guys doing things to you that you don't like no, I put a stop to that too. I mean I'm not a tiny guy by any means
So, it's not like I can be forced a lot of people are to force me into something that I'm not kind of what you know, I mean
But I'm unfortunate you know somebody starts licking your armpit and you just let him into you're fine with it
And I would probably laugh at like you're not turning me on you're actually grossing me out
Like there's So, ways of stopping things without being rude. I guess they're not being rude or and then you can be rude as it continues
Sorry, but yeah, I just I don't like it. I mean I guess if it's that mild sometimes I'll just lay it slide
but
I'm just gonna go
What about times when you put pressure on a guy to have sex with you or do something with you that he didn't want it to you?
I don't think I've ever really done that. I might have brought up things and then seeing how it's called
And I don't think I've ever really pressured someone into something. I like it to you
No, I don't
Sometimes you pressure me to have sex but
Nothing specific. Yeah, but yeah, no, I'm pretty vanilla in the first place
So, I would think I think I am I mean have you I almost certainly have I can't think of
Example, I mean, you're pretty vanilla also. I mean we're not
You know, it's we're not we are pretty vanilla
Do you think about it compared to some what's from some people are until so I guess I would say I wasn't successful
I remember one time when a
Couple invited me to their house and one of them was into fisting and so, his husband wanted me to do that to him and I
Refused well, yeah, like someone a hotdog down a hallway. I just didn't want to have my hand in there
It didn't interest me. It didn't turn me on or anything might they disappointed. I probably
But you know, you I think in that situation they would have to be turned down most of the time
Yeah, it's not something that comes up in casual dinner conversation
Yeah, I'm thankful. I've never been put that position before so did the date and after that not to have remember. It's been so long
It's been a decade or more since I've had sex with anyone besides you
But I say that way too
Little horn dog, so I guess it's already through the list. So, what is your favorite joke right now my favorite joke?
I might have to tell two jokes. Yeah, how difficult is it to seduce a Baehr? I don't know. How difficult is it? It's a piece of cake
I like that and my other one is Halloween related since Halloween
When you put together a Halloween costume, why should you also buy a wig?
I don't know why. It's a small price to pay. Oh god, no one was bad
Here we go. That was the first joke was a success. The So, other one was too much to pay
All right, we hope you've enjoyed episode 77 of the Bear and Curadh podcast. This is Baehr. Mrs. Curadh. Goodbye. Goodbye
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